Females. I keep few as friends. Eventually they show their true colors: emotional, fake, sneaky, conniving, jealous liars. It amazes me how females can spread rumors or talk about you behind your back, then smile in your face. Unfortunately, I have just realized I have a "friend" like that.
Times like this I miss my best friend Cherita. I could tell her anything and expect non-judgemental, rational, logical, and sound advice. Best friends like that are irreplaceable. Cherita moved out of state so it makes its not so easy to pick up the phone and spill my guts. I can't just run over her house real quick to do re-enactments of my day.
So since my best friend is unavailable right now, this blog will have to suffice. I need advice. Should I confront this "friend" that betrayed my friendship?
10 comments:
Yes you should. I hope it's not me hun!!!!
No, its not you Jenny! I want to say something to her so bad, but I don't have enough concrete evidence yet to confront her. So in the meantime I am just ignoring all her phonecalls and dodging her visits.
I would like to say this. And I had to do it for myself and still doing it. Having a great job is excellent. Having great friends is nice. But having a great job and great friends will not bring you complete happiness. Of course you know that friends can always stabb you in the back and front. Your well paying job can turn into a unemployment. Again I'm very happy for you because you have these things. Now to tell you this that it is very, very, very important that you listen to the Word of God when He says "Seek ye first the kingdom of God (Heaven) and all should be added unto you. Not just material things but spiritual and it will feel a void that you may not even realize you have. It shouldn't bother you if friends treat you wrong and bad or if you girl is living out of town cause you don't have someone to spill your problems to, because remember, God is suppose to be your best friend where you can talk to Him about anything. You may talk to Him now but you need to seek Him first before everything. Seek His advice before you make a move on anything. Clean house meaning get your house in order. I had to do the same thing. I should be dead right now but if it wasn't for the grace of God, where would I be. God bless you Ladontai and may God keep you in perfect peace.
This is one of those situations where you can see pros and cons to every single move you could take. If you don't say something you'll never have the same friendship anyway, so I would just ask her. Although, if it's someone you can easily see your life without..
I can't really advise you, I'm the queen of confrontation but unable to hold a grudge for any time at all. If you're sure she's done it, and it's BAD (the end of a friendship bad) you have nothing to lose.
Yeah I'm useless!!
Hey rain. You are such a sweet person. If you dont confront this it is going to eat away at you. It will make you into a person you dont want to become. Plus you can't run and hide forever.
To the first anonymous poster on my blog:
Thank you for such an inspirational comment. I now realize that having a great job and great friends does not guarantee happiness. In the light of recent events, I HAVE turned to God. I no longer stress out about who did what, when, or where. I lifted the burden unto my Lord. I want to thank you for that reminder that God is my best friend too and will always be there in my time of need to listen and help me heal.
Lizzie, Lizzie, Lizzie: The Queen of Confrontation. Believe it or not, your comments are far from useless.
AWWW thank you so much for the comment Keisha. Oh how I miss hanging out with you! I will take your advice and not let this eat away at me. Its not worth the worry because the truth always has its way of coming into the light.
Keep you all posted!
Just a little update: the "friend" called me and I finally answered the phone. She pretended like everything was A-OK. I don't think she realizes she is busted.
!!!!!!YYYYYYEEEEEEPPPPPP!!!!!!
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